YOU. Yup, you read that right. It’s YOU. What do I mean by that? Let me explain. The ultimate fix to all your problems is to be the greatest version of yourself. So what exactly does the greatest version of you look like? Let’s start with the physicalities – are you in shape, can you keep up with your kids, are you active? How about you at work – are you dependable, are you reliable, do you show up to work on time and get shit done? What about you at home – Are you a good parent, brother, sister, son, daughter, etc? Are you respectful of everyone and loving? What about your relationships – Can you be trusted, Do people like hanging out with you, Do you give more than you take?
My point is this – look at yourself and then look at what the greatest version of you is. Then work at being that person. Are you having issues at work with your boss? Would the greatest version of you still have those same problems? Some of you might hate your boss and blame them because of who they are. In many cases, you’re probably right. But you can’t control your boss. You can’t control how they were born and raised. You can control yourself though. But I digress.
What about your friends and family? Are you having problems with communicating with them? Would the best version of you be a good communicator and listener as compared to how you communicate now? What about your health? Would the best version of you be in shape or just sitting on the couch and consuming Netflix and social media? You get my point.
When you chase becoming the best version of yourself, you become what I call “Unfuckwithable”. No one can fuck with you. It’s the ultimate answer to everything, as long as you always strive to get there. I argue that its your duty on earth to strive to become the best version you everyday.
Whenever I was in a rut, or down I had a habit of pointing at anything and everything that was causing my life to not go the way I wanted. “So and so is an asshole and won’t listen to me, This circumstance kept me from getting after my goal, I sprained my ankle so I couldn’t go to the gym, etc…” The list goes on and on and ultimately were nothing but excuses. Maybe I’d vent to my friends or put it out there on Social Media – then I’d get sympathy or likes and comments supporting me for blaming every circumstance preventing me from living the life I wanted. It felt good, but it didn’t change the fact that I wasn’t trying to live to my potential.
In this day and age of Social Media, so many people have built their reputations and identities on being the victim. Without fail, they always get sympathy and support. I’m not so cold hearted to say that they shouldn’t, but after awhile – what are you doing to fix it? Everyone has suffered trauma to a certain degree, and we can’t get into a competition of who has suffered more than the other. But the fact remains that regardless of your trauma – you have to move forward in order to get anywhere.
When you hear a good story, it typically follows what is known as the “Hero’s Story”. The hero is on this journey of life, faces a setback of some sort, struggles to fight through the setback and eventually comes out the other side triumphant and successful. There aren’t many Hero’s Stories where the Hero faces a setback and instead of fighting through it, just stays there and suffers. Those stories typically suck and end with the Hero dying. Not much of a story worth reading is it? The best stories have the hero fight the most insurmountable odds to come out on top.
So, why is it that so many people play the victim and stay there? Why do their supposed friends continue to support them when they’re playing the victim instead of supporting them to fight through it? Isn’t that what a real friend would do?
If you want to be the hero in your story, you need to become Unfuckwithable. There are two voices in all of us – The “Little Bitch” voice, or the “Boss” voice. One wants you to be the best version of yourself and the other wants you to be the victim. Whichever one you listen to more is going to create that version of you. The boss voice says, “Go to the gym” the little bitch voice says, “you’ve worked out twice last week, you deserve some Krispy Kreme”. The boss voice says, “Read that business book and start that business plan”. The other says, “Let’s start tomorrow, besides there’s basketball on TV”.
It’s on you to figure out which voice you’re going to listen to daily. Now quit being a little bitch.